Growing Fetishes

“the bleak light of full adulthood, which is to one’s early twenties as Sunday morning is to Saturday night”
-Neal Stephenson, Snow Crash

There’s plenty I’ve found myself more interested in as I’ve grown older:  Lingerie, pegging, The Dave Matthews Band.  Similarly, the partners I’ve had for many years have also developed as we’ve grown together.  They too adopt new fetishes and quirks, though nothing as weird as The Dave Matthews Band.  That’s pretty much just me.

While these quirks certainly vary strongly between the partners I’ve had, there is one fetish of which I’ve found more and more of the female partners I’ve had have been particularly fond: the creampie fantasy.

It might be as simple as the pleasure of forbidden fruits.  Maybe it’s a reclamation of the historical use of impregnation as a tool of female oppression.  Or maybe we’re all just getting a little older and parenthood is becoming something that scares us in a good way.  Whatever the reason, just like Game of Thrones or Fifth Harmony, pretending to knock a girl up is what’s hot right now.

Note, I said “pretending”.  Safe sex no more mutually exclusive with an impregnation fantasy than consent is with a rape roleplay.  I’ve done the impregnation roleplay while wearing condoms, with partners using an IUD, I’ve even had an impregnation roleplay with a transwoman.  I discuss the matter beforehand, establish whatever parameters please both parties, and we forge ahead with an everpresent consideration of each other and have never had an issue.

It’s a high risk roleplay, though.  You’re playing with the concept of maternity.  Which is a Freudian slippery slope.  If we were using the rating system I employed in my article about roleplays, I would rank this one as an R-Rated roleplay.  At least.  I think that’s why it’s been received so well.  It’s just so impossibly naughty…

Like many of my partners, I grew up with a stock of middle and upper-middle class white youths.  For many of us in the progressive generation, we weren’t raised to be afraid of sex.  We were raised to be afraid of babies.  The parents of our generation made sure we knew their regrets about having us.

Of course, our parents are one generation deeper into the widespread use of pregnancy to subjugate and indenture women.  With the expanding recognition of these acts, there too is coming the expanding fetishization of them.  Just like 1950s household or Burlesque, our newfound understanding of the sordid history makes it wet with unacceptability.  It’s no coincidence that all of the partners who have enthusiastically taken to this fetish are also Steinem-reading, patriarchy-fighting, self-identified feminists.

In addition to feminism, the other trend that’s popular with my partners is aging.  We’re not old yet, but we’re getting to the age where we’re expected to continue propagating the species.  And in this bleak light of full adulthood, there is something satisfying about the feeling of giving in to the societal pressure.  I won’t deny that it’s a little liberating when immerse myself in the toxic masculinity that is dripping from the affectations of me being “dominant” in the bedroom.

I am become patriarchy, destroyer of wombs.

Don’t get your Dworkins in a twist, though.  Just like condoms, feminism too is not mutually exclusive with this roleplay.  I can only imagine the struggles of the average woman who identifies as feminist and submissive, so I don’t want to miss an opportunity to remind them that you can be both.  And the feminist/submissive dichotomy is no less false than the conventional one drawn between virgin/whore.

Be both.  Say the nasty shit.

Get the nasty shit said to you.

It’s more prevalent than you might imagine.  Reddit has 11 forums dedicated to the subject, two of which are personals, totalling 140,242 subscribed readers.  And that’s just in the public forums, of which the three most popular (are NSFW and) are:

  • r/breeding – 26,514 Readers
    This forum is sort of a catch-all for any media/literature of or relating to the subject.
  • r/cuckoldpregnancy – 7,714 Readers
    Which is directed to the act of humiliating submissives with having their partners sharing a child with a third, outside party.  While there certainly are a few posts dedicated to cuckqueaning and also whitebreeding a female person of color.  The most common post is for “blackbreeding” a white woman with an extramarital black male (or “bull” to use the technical language).
  • r/inbreeding – 4,616 Readers
    This subreddit goes with the tagline “When just fucking your family isn’t enough”.  What a pointed commentary!  If you’re already having one of the most taboo fetishes on the market, why not go the extra weird mile?
    In for a penny, in for a pound…

Reddit is a fine platform for getting your hands on literature and some images on the subject.  While they do have videos, the champion of getting internet porn videos for free is the searching feature behind porn torrenting websites.  These have been meticulously and methodically designed to satisfy perverts with very specific proclivities.  I groomed all the tags relevant to the topic and found a total of 362 videos!  Of the top tags concerning these fetishes, here’s a list with the number of tagged videos:

 

Tag(s) Videos Available
“Impregnation” 247
“Impregnation Fantasy” 115
“Breeding” 70
“Blackbred” 11
“Black.Bred” 7
“Black.Breeding” 5
“Bred.By.Black” “Insemination” 4
“Wifebreeding”, “Wifebreeder”, “Inseminated”, “Impreg” 3
“Wife.Breeders”, “Breed”, “Blackbred.com”, “Forced.Impregnation” 2
“Implied.Impregnation”, “Blrackbred”, “Breedingwhore”, “Interracial.Breeding”, “Reluctant.Breeding”, “Reluctant.Impregnation”, “Forced.Breeding”, “Bred.By.Blacks” 1

Note: plenty of the videos in this stock fall into several, if not most, of these categories.

In total, we’re looking at 362 separate videos that are all directed towards an impregnation fetish.  To put that in perspective, it’s not as common as videos tagged with fetishes like “Emo” (429 videos) or “Anal.Beads” (465 videos).  It’s almost as popular as spectacles like “ass.to.ass” (364 videos); marginally more popular than fetishes like “Medical” (358 videos) or  “wrestling” (360 videos).  And it’s distinctly more common than videos tagged with fetishes like “Tickling” (255 videos) or “Nipple.Torture” (253 videos).

Of the representative videos tagged in the impregnation fetish, the most downloaded are:
5.  Veruca James – Virtual Sex Creampie (142 Seeds)
4.  Alex Chance – Brothers and Sisters (154 Seeds)
3.  Taylor Mitchell – Real Amateur Hotwife & Interracial Cuckold  (175 Seeds)
2.  Princess Leia – Party Girl Had Daddy Impregnate Her (207 Seeds)
1.  Lady Fyre – Mom Made Me Impregnate Aunt Mallory (441 Seeds)

Clearly, inbreeding is the most commonly shared video on the subject.  But interracial cuckoldry is in a very powerful third place.  Just barely in the top 5 would be the fine performance of Veruca James, which is a story of a deceptive girl who lures her boyfriend into using sabotaged condoms so that she gets pregnant because she is excited about the idea of having his abortion.

I’ll bet you thought the one that wasn’t about incest or cuckoldry was gonna be a little more normal, didn’t you?

False.

Given the usually direct correlation between how sexy something is and how unacceptable it is, don’ t be afraid to let your freak flag fly.  Sure, I’ve proposed this roleplay to a few girls who were not interested.  But accepting a refusal is easy enough to do, that it’s worth at least offering if you’re interested.

As for the execution of the roleplay, here’s a list of winning strategies I’ve found for the engagement:

  1. Suspend the Disbelief
    Don’t let them see you put the condom on.  Sure, they’ll know you’re wearing one.  But there’s something exciting about not knowing that your partner is wearing one.  Like good practical special effects at the movies.  I know it’s only a model, but I forget when I’m not reminded.
  2. Talk Some Shit
    Even if you were legitimately having unprotected sex for the explicit purpose of procreation, you wouldn’t know if you were successful for at least a week.  So the only way to make it real (or ‘real’ in the case of a roleplay) is for the verbal exchange to happen.  Use some graphic language with phrases like “knock me up” or “make me a mom”.  You can even get extra gritty with nigh-agricultural phrases like “you’re my fertile, little breed mare”.
  3. Find out What You Like About It
    This should be the first step before exploring any kink really.  Do you like the idea of having something of your partner’s put into you?  Do you like the idea of owning your partner from the inside?  There are a lot of different places you could take this kink and finding out what direction will really help guide you to a place you really dig.

Have you ever tried an impregnation roleplay?  What was the scenario?  Got any winning lines you like to say/hear?  Any good videos you’d recommend for people who’re interested?

Long Live the Quean

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Sometimes, I tie my girlfriend up and fuck other girls in front of her.  I do this because I’m a feminist.

Stick with me on this one…

In the realm of subbing, there is the common practice of cuckoldry.  Cuckoldry  is a sexual fetish in which a male sub is stimulated by their gal having sex with another man (this other man is called the “bull”).  As a man of feminist ideals though, I don’t see this as something that only men can have.  Actually, the practice of doing this to a female bottom already exists and it’s called Cuckqueaning.  Cuckqueaning is a pretty delightful blend of non-monogamy, teasing, and humiliation play.  If both parties are keen on a cocktail with those three ingredients, you can mix like mad!

I’ve had a longstanding relationship with a wonderful woman who likes to be cucked.  If you’re still figuring out whether or not you would like to cuck (or be cucked by) your partner, hopefully these musings will rustle your nest in the right direction.

Why the Cuck?

Tons of reasons.  As a male top, there’s a lot of emotions you can invoke when you ‘force’ your partner to watch you fucking someone else:

  • Uninvited
    It’s that feeling that you get when you were in gym class and everyone else was getting picked for a team before you.  Remember those feelings of helplessness and shame?  Those come into play hard when cucking.  If you don’t remember those feelings because you were always picked first, then fuck you.
  • Spectator Sport
    Outside of the feelings of degradation, there are some great feelings of voyeurism for the sub to explore and exhibitionism for the dom and his lady-bull.  Also, a woman (ideally) finds her partner sexy enough to want to watch them performing sexually.  It’s like watching a live action porno with people you already like!
  • Fair-Weather Bisexuality
    An FMF threesome is a good way for a girl who is a 1 on the Kinsey Scale to see if she’s a 2 or 3.  Cuckqueaning is a good way for her to see if she’s even a 1.  After she sees how she feels about sharing a room with another lady during a sexual encounter, she can see about sharing more.
  • Hyper-Compersion
    A sub can feel like she is servicing her top by letting another girl please him.  Especially if she arranged or helped arrange the liaisons, there can be a sense of satisfaction from treating her dom, as well as treating the third party involved.
  • Girl Power
    As I mentioned before, the male-focused cuckoldry is distinctly more popular than cuckqueaning.  Cuckqueaning is an avenue for women to occupy a conventionally male space.

If any of this has piqued you and your partner’s interest and you would like to explore it, there are some avenues for that!

The Setup

Setting up a cuckqueanery is similar enough to arranging an FMF threesome.  Be sensitive to the differences between these two orchestrations, though:

  1. This affair borders on group-sex, kink, and polyamory.  In that respect, a potential third could be found in any of these communities.
  2. The girl you’re looking for doesn’t have to be sexually interested in girls.  As long as she’s interested in being watched by another girl, you’ll do fine.
  3. Like exploring any new fetish, discuss limits and safewords with everyone involved beforehand.  While a sub may be alright being ‘forced’ to watch a different girl riding her dom like a mechanical bull, the same sub might be very unexcited by the idea of her dom bending another girl over in front of her.  Make sure everyone has had a chance to resolve any hesitations.  And when you finally make that maiden voyage, be ready to slow down and/or stop if there are any issues during the event.

The Execution

Once all the pieces are in place, there’s a number of different ways to optimize your experience.

  1. Employ Bondage
    Strap them up to a chair so they can’t go anywhere.  Force them to watch (Eye speculum optional).  Or force them to turn away and only hear the moans and slapping noises.  If the sub is to be released, this can be done slowly.  After she puts up with the foreplay, give the sub a hand that she can use to treat herself.
  2. Talk Smack
    If the sub is into verbal abuse, this is a brilliant opportunity to talk some shit.  The guy could talk about how much tighter the new girl feels, the lady-bull can comment on how good it feels to be the one girl he’s taking.
  3. Serfs Up
    Service subs can always be put to work.  The sub can help by holding the hitachi in place, wiping the sweat off her man’s forehead, operating the camera and recording the event on video.  At the end, she can remove the condom and dispose of it.  Or she can be made to clean up the moneyshot with a paper towel…or her tongue.
  4. All that Jizz
    I’ve talked before about all the neat things couples can do with a man’s ejaculate.  You can really expand on that when you’re cuckqueaning.  Most guys only get one, so the sub is going to want that.  The sub might be acclimated to causing it and/or receiving it.  This desire can be warped and twisted into a form of subjugation.  Milk a used condom into the sub’s mouth, finish into the lady-bull’s mouth and have her spit it in the sub’s face.  If the lady-bull and dom are fluid-bonded, there can even be a creampie dessert for the sub to eat the literally sloppy seconds.
  5. Shove it in their face
    While having sex in front of a sub is a good way to ‘force’ them to watch, doms can be more aggressive in forcing this voyeurism.  A sub can be grabbed by the hair and have their face placed inches from where the penetration is happening.  The dom can fingerblast the lady-bull and then force the sub to smell it.

Ultimately, I’ve always been fond of cuckqueaning a sub from a social justice perspective.  In the realm of sexual paraphilias there are vastly more men into cuckoldry then there are women into its opposite (The ratio of subscribers in Reddit’s related communities is 25,350 : 5021).  This ties into the naughty=hot-as-fuck paradigm which is one of the truest mantras of sexuality.  I believe the reason there are more fans of cuckoldry is because cuckqueaning is simply much less taboo.

When a woman is nonmonogamous with other men, we call her a whore and she’s stoned to death in certain parts of the world.  When a man is nonmonogamous with other women; people generally just shake their heads in disapproval or it’s because he is a bigamist in certain parts of the world.  In our society, it’s almost expected that all men will have a failure of fidelity.  In that respect, it’s not nearly as inappropriate for a man to be with another woman.  Because cuckqueaning is ‘merely’ male infidelity, there’s less of a following.

I’m not even particularly ravenous to cuck my partner.  If I put the effort into arranging to be in the bedroom causing some shenanigans with two women, ideally they’ll both be directly involved.  In that, cuckqueaning is less satisfying than a threeway, but I still love it.  I love cuckqueaning primarily because I want to live in a world where it’s as inappropriate for a man to be unfaithful as it is for a woman.

Have you ever been queaned?  Wanted to be queaned?  Had some success queaning?  Leave your experiences in the comments below!

 

PS

Also, I use the term lady-bull because I didn’t find ‘cow’ quite as fitting.  I’m also open to hearing the preferred nomenclature for this…

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