Sometimes, I tie my girlfriend up and fuck other girls in front of her. I do this because I’m a feminist.
Stick with me on this one…
In the realm of subbing, there is the common practice of cuckoldry. Cuckoldry is a sexual fetish in which a male sub is stimulated by their gal having sex with another man (this other man is called the “bull”). As a man of feminist ideals though, I don’t see this as something that only men can have. Actually, the practice of doing this to a female bottom already exists and it’s called Cuckqueaning. Cuckqueaning is a pretty delightful blend of non-monogamy, teasing, and humiliation play. If both parties are keen on a cocktail with those three ingredients, you can mix like mad!
I’ve had a longstanding relationship with a wonderful woman who likes to be cucked. If you’re still figuring out whether or not you would like to cuck (or be cucked by) your partner, hopefully these musings will rustle your nest in the right direction.
Why the Cuck?
Tons of reasons. As a male top, there’s a lot of emotions you can invoke when you ‘force’ your partner to watch you fucking someone else:
It’s that feeling that you get when you were in gym class and everyone else was getting picked for a team before you. Remember those feelings of helplessness and shame? Those come into play hard when cucking. If you don’t remember those feelings because you were always picked first, then fuck you.
- Spectator Sport
Outside of the feelings of degradation, there are some great feelings of voyeurism for the sub to explore and exhibitionism for the dom and his lady-bull. Also, a woman (ideally) finds her partner sexy enough to want to watch them performing sexually. It’s like watching a live action porno with people you already like!
- Fair-Weather Bisexuality
An FMF threesome is a good way for a girl who is a 1 on the Kinsey Scale to see if she’s a 2 or 3. Cuckqueaning is a good way for her to see if she’s even a 1. After she sees how she feels about sharing a room with another lady during a sexual encounter, she can see about sharing more.
A sub can feel like she is servicing her top by letting another girl please him. Especially if she arranged or helped arrange the liaisons, there can be a sense of satisfaction from treating her dom, as well as treating the third party involved.
- Girl Power
As I mentioned before, the male-focused cuckoldry is distinctly more popular than cuckqueaning. Cuckqueaning is an avenue for women to occupy a conventionally male space.
If any of this has piqued you and your partner’s interest and you would like to explore it, there are some avenues for that!
Setting up a cuckqueanery is similar enough to arranging an FMF threesome. Be sensitive to the differences between these two orchestrations, though:
- This affair borders on group-sex, kink, and polyamory. In that respect, a potential third could be found in any of these communities.
- The girl you’re looking for doesn’t have to be sexually interested in girls. As long as she’s interested in being watched by another girl, you’ll do fine.
- Like exploring any new fetish, discuss limits and safewords with everyone involved beforehand. While a sub may be alright being ‘forced’ to watch a different girl riding her dom like a mechanical bull, the same sub might be very unexcited by the idea of her dom bending another girl over in front of her. Make sure everyone has had a chance to resolve any hesitations. And when you finally make that maiden voyage, be ready to slow down and/or stop if there are any issues during the event.
Once all the pieces are in place, there’s a number of different ways to optimize your experience.
- Employ Bondage
Strap them up to a chair so they can’t go anywhere. Force them to watch (Eye speculum optional). Or force them to turn away and only hear the moans and slapping noises. If the sub is to be released, this can be done slowly. After she puts up with the foreplay, give the sub a hand that she can use to treat herself.
- Talk Smack
If the sub is into verbal abuse, this is a brilliant opportunity to talk some shit. The guy could talk about how much tighter the new girl feels, the lady-bull can comment on how good it feels to be the one girl he’s taking.
- Serfs Up
Service subs can always be put to work. The sub can help by holding the hitachi in place, wiping the sweat off her man’s forehead, operating the camera and recording the event on video. At the end, she can remove the condom and dispose of it. Or she can be made to clean up the moneyshot with a paper towel…or her tongue.
- All that Jizz
I’ve talked before about all the neat things couples can do with a man’s ejaculate. You can really expand on that when you’re cuckqueaning. Most guys only get one, so the sub is going to want that. The sub might be acclimated to causing it and/or receiving it. This desire can be warped and twisted into a form of subjugation. Milk a used condom into the sub’s mouth, finish into the lady-bull’s mouth and have her spit it in the sub’s face. If the lady-bull and dom are fluid-bonded, there can even be a creampie dessert for the sub to eat the literally sloppy seconds.
- Shove it in their face
While having sex in front of a sub is a good way to ‘force’ them to watch, doms can be more aggressive in forcing this voyeurism. A sub can be grabbed by the hair and have their face placed inches from where the penetration is happening. The dom can fingerblast the lady-bull and then force the sub to smell it.
Ultimately, I’ve always been fond of cuckqueaning a sub from a social justice perspective. In the realm of sexual paraphilias there are vastly more men into cuckoldry then there are women into its opposite (The ratio of subscribers in Reddit’s related communities is 25,350 : 5021). This ties into the naughty=hot-as-fuck paradigm which is one of the truest mantras of sexuality. I believe the reason there are more fans of cuckoldry is because cuckqueaning is simply much less taboo.
When a woman is nonmonogamous with other men, we call her a whore and she’s stoned to death in certain parts of the world. When a man is nonmonogamous with other women; people generally just shake their heads in disapproval or it’s because he is a bigamist in certain parts of the world. In our society, it’s almost expected that all men will have a failure of fidelity. In that respect, it’s not nearly as inappropriate for a man to be with another woman. Because cuckqueaning is ‘merely’ male infidelity, there’s less of a following.
I’m not even particularly ravenous to cuck my partner. If I put the effort into arranging to be in the bedroom causing some shenanigans with two women, ideally they’ll both be directly involved. In that, cuckqueaning is less satisfying than a threeway, but I still love it. I love cuckqueaning primarily because I want to live in a world where it’s as inappropriate for a man to be unfaithful as it is for a woman.
Have you ever been queaned? Wanted to be queaned? Had some success queaning? Leave your experiences in the comments below!
Also, I use the term lady-bull because I didn’t find ‘cow’ quite as fitting. I’m also open to hearing the preferred nomenclature for this…